p. 18 Big Book of Alcoholics Anoymous An illness of this sort—and we have come to believe it an illness—involves those about us in a way no other human sickness can. If a person has cancer all are sorry for him and no one is angry or hurt. But not so with the alcoholic illness, [...]
I told him I love him and to take care of his business. There is a solution.
arents new to addiction are taught, “addict’s manipulate”. This is a truism. What you probably won’t be told is that “Parents of Addicts manipulate too.” To “fix” our kids, we try every trick found in our parent manipulation bag. I know I did. I used to rationalize my manipulation by thinking; “Desperate times call for [...]
I often wonder if my son is giving up. He has the tools found in the Big Book and conceptually understands that he is “POWERLESS” yet the periods of sobriety have been fleeting. Like many things, my son has “half assed” his attempts at 12 step recovery thus it’s engine always sputters. I wonder if in his twisted brain he has begun to believe “that stuff don’t work anyway”. I truly hope not for the only periods I have seen my boy truly happy in many years were those short periods when he was “working it”.
What had become of their judgment, their common sense, their will power? Why could they not see that drink meant ruin to them? Why was it, when these dangers were pointed out that they agreed, and then got drunk again immediately? pg 108 Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous I often wonder about my son’s common [...]