Enabler’s loophole?
I cringed as in my humble opinion, behaviors such as enabling, rescuing, and codependency are all WRONG. I am not judging for the sake of judging, but rather to offer hope. Hope takes some work on our part.
I cringed as in my humble opinion, behaviors such as enabling, rescuing, and codependency are all WRONG. I am not judging for the sake of judging, but rather to offer hope. Hope takes some work on our part.
It was interesting to get the responses (one verbal and one in comments ) regarding my comments on the pharmaceutical industry funding of a “recovery site”. Both addicts ( one sober for approximately a year , the other according to his blog is active in addiction ) felt that they were responsible for the drug [...]
People seeking recovery for their kids often ask what I did to cure him. I learned that I was powerless and that he cured himself! Perhaps it is what I learned “not to do” ,that maybe helped him along. I would not cure my son but l very quickly learned not to enable his disease
I watched others go through the endless cycle and decided that “clean underwear did not equate to love” I loved my child but felt he had to bottom out and understand that I would not be their to “powder his butt” forever.
Enablers on some level love to feel needed by their child. Feeling needed is a positive thing and the fact that parents can keep their drug addicted child at home is the cherry on the enabling cupcake.