Triggers vs. Yoga?
We never, never try to arrange a man’s life so as to shield him from temptation. The slightest disposition on your part to guide his appointments or his affairs so he will not be tempted will be noticed. Make him feel absolutely free to come and go as he likes. This is important.
Big Book Chap 8
I wrote a post about how I struggled with triggers back in 2010. I was and am still learning about the road to recovery and have a long long long journey ahead of me.
I have been granted many gifts thanks to my son’s addiction.I have learned and experienced emotions other parents with non-addict children will never understand.
One of the concepts I have been learned is that in addiction , “life is a trigger.” Most parents with some recovery time will tell others to stop sweating the trigger game. The trigger game is futile exercise where we try to control the elements of their world hoping to prevent a relapse. I eventually learned it was a colossal waste of my energy!
God forbid a purple spotted flamingo with sunglasses flies by on a Wednesday…because that is the event that occurred last time junior relapsed.
Life on life’s terms. I had to put that concept in my parental recovery tool chest!
Save your energy for your gardening, for your power walking, hot yoga, or whatever else you like to do. Stop trying to control the triggers of their addiction. When their obsession is truly lifted…well you can read about that in the book. I am off to my yoga class…
peace and strength
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