House of Cards
Is it enabling? Is it helping?
Is what she says the truth? Is what she says a lie?
It is collaborating with recovery? Is it collaboration with addiction?
Do I lend him 10 dollars? Do I hold the 10 dollars that will potentially end up in his veins?
Does he live at home? Do I ask him to leave?
Can we trust? Should we remain on guard?
Forgive or not to forgive?
Is this person a sponsee? Is this person a dealer?
There are so many cards in the deck!
Learning to build your recovery is not easy. Many of the of the cards in the deck can be treacherous until we begin to use the skills we develop as builders. Everything, including recovery, takes practice. Keep practicing!
peace and strength
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Categorised as: Coping Skills
This post reminds me of my favorite promise of AA’s twelve promises: “We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.” This is truly one of the gifts of recovery.
thank you lisa, I had never heard of the promises….
http://homepage.eircom.net/~recovery/promises.html
interesting…we never stop learning on this journey
Yesterday, my deck looked like a bunch of jokers. And I’m also glad I’ve gotten good at reading my addicts poker face… it helps in knowing when to Holdem’, when to foldem’ when to walk away and when to run” Yesterday I had to run.
Damn I hate this.
I was never too good at card playing, perhaps that is why it took me so long to realize that “normal” was just an illusion. I have created my own brand of “normal” and it consists of one ingredient…”if it feels wrong, then it is wrong”…I base all my decisions on my gut, not my heart…my gut knows the truth while my heart remains under that same veil of deceit where we often find addiction residing….I try to remember that doing the “right thing” where my addict is concerned doesn’t always “feel” right…sometimes love does look like hate…at least to our addicts when they are active.
heart gut and applying the brain ..the stuff we learn that is hard to face
http://addictionjournal.net/?p=2696