Applying Serenity Prayer
My son is going to court today to address a violation of probation. He could be locked up by day’s end. I accept the things I can not change…
Yes he is on my mind. Yes I have said the SERENITY PRAYER more than once today. No I don’t think incarcerating him will help, but the consequences are his to face. At some on the journey I have detached. I love him and want the best.
I am at work while he sits in the wooden benches before a judge.
He has been in court more than once on his journey. Legal consequences are one of the 3 results *(Jail, Death, Institution) our kids face if they don’t find recovery.
He understands my point of view and knows I will collaborate with his recovery.
I hope things go well for him today. I hope things go well for all our kids everyday.
peace and strength
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I want so much to cry. But it won’t come anymore I feel the tears stored in the back of my eyeballs. When I think about my beautiful sister having to go through this again with her husbands relapse I tears me apart. I can’t sleep. I can’t eat but that might be a good thing maybe I’ll lose some weight. Does the nightmare ever end. Dear God give me the strength to stop worrying as I have no control over it but I do worry. I worry about him losing his job her and her kids. It’s with me when I sleep when I get up. What a ride.
Again. It happened again. My brother in law who is or I should say was
a police seargent was dismissed after failing a drug test. He was in rehab twice. Has a beautiful wife inside and out with two young children.
They are both 41 years old she gave up her teaching job so she can stay home to raise her children and now he took early retirement instead of a termination but he will need to work. I am her older sister and am beside my self with constant worry about what will happen to them all. Any advice you guys out there can give me will be most appreciated.
I am sorry to read this comment. I was taught many years ago Addiction is a family disease affecting everyone. My instructor was correct. I hope others give some advice… Mine would be to hit about 6 al anon meetings to start and read “Addict in the Family”
Thank you for replying. I will look up meetings and read the book.
Laurie it will help –
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ ( try multiple meetings as you will like some better than others )
http://www.amazon.com/Addict-In-The-Family-Recovery/dp/156838999X
I just love reading your threads. Thanks so much for teaching me what I need to know.
I just love reading your threads. Thanks so much for teaching me what I need to know.
thank you for reading Deanna. The concepts etc are not mine they belong to the people that helped me along my journey…pay it forward and help another family when your time is right! Helping others will further your own recovery!
peace
So glad things went well..prayers to you both
thanks eve. hope all is well
Just introduced to the site. You are all a inspiration to me. God bless you all
thank you Barbara
prayers for both of you…
thanks ..good seeing you this eve
just signing in…hoping things went well today. sending prayers your way for he and you.
things are well..today is a good day.
God bless
thanks Patty Romano
Sending you prayers and positive thoughts.
thank you lisa
Billy, My prayers are with you and your beautiful child, been there so many times. I can't even go into a court room without a naught in my stomach and feeling sick. Ironically the last time Michael had to go to court was because he still had an outstanding warrant which prevented him from getting a job, he had been sober roughly almost 2 years and his probation officer was so impress with my son – when he got called up in front of the Judge she dismissed all charges and fines and said- I see great things for you my son. Bill the one time I wished I was there and I wasn't. My husband said what a feeling of joy! Bill I know in my heart your son will get though this because he has one awesome Dad by his side and an angel Mom looking over for him. God Bless you both!
thank you Sandra for you kind words…your son is an inspiration as are you!
It’s a good thing that your son can “man-up” and accept the consequences of his actions. I hope the judge sees it the way you do by not putting him in jail.
My husband and I follow your journal because it really resonates with us. Would you kindly read my post and offer some insight or comments on what’s happening with our son?
Thank you!
The addy is: http://www.mysonisanaddict.wordpress.com
sorry for delay – post was flagged as spam
I have linked here for others to read and comment, as together we will learn, support, and hopefully get healthy…
http://mysonisanaddict.wordpress.com/2012/03/07/oopps-i-did-it-again/
Been in your shoes with my own son who, by Gods grace, is soon to celebrate two years of sobriety. Keep the faith!
continued health to both you and your son! Glad that you posted thus showing others that it can happen and not to give up hope!
Been there. Early on I was willing to do my son’s time for him. Not now. Consequences for our actions are a powerful lesson. I don’t what to do any more except pray. Best tool I have.
Your post contains wisdom..” Early on I was willing to do my son’s time for him. Not now.” That is a homerun! and should be pondered by those that are “doing time” for their children..
Thanks Mark
((hugs))
thanks
Prayers to you, My boy goes tomorrow and starts weekends in jail for 4 months , He is only 16 and115 lbs and 5'1.He was charged as an adult. He has to face the consequences of his actions, I just hope this is his bottom.
God Im so sorry to read this Linda.. I pray too that he will turn it around .
Prayers from Dallas! Such a odd journey they go on!
The journey they take us on..sometimes I feel like the “dog” that was tethered to the car in Chevy Chase’s vacation ..( not sure if u remember that movie ) The dog had a bumpy ride to say the least..
I can relate to the Chevy Chase thing :0)
Hope all goes well for your son.
glad someone got that joke..hope all is well Erin
Things are much better, I went to my first Nar-Anon meeting, great group of people, I’m feeling stronger already.
My thoughts are with you today.your your strength is contagious .
thanks Lori..i have had good teachers ..just pay it forward as you too are strong ..
I pray things go well for him today as well…but you are right, there is a destiantion that we cannot allow ourselves to follow in this with our loved ones. Hard as it is to clear your mind of where he is today, hold onto the fact that he is following through. Big part of recovery…
Thanks Elaine – I think back to the “early days”. I would walk up before the judge side by side with my son, and time kept passing. Then at age 18 I walked up before the judge with my son after yet another “infraction”. The judge that day asked my son how old he was. He answered, “18 years old your honor.” She turned to me and said “Sir you may sit down”
That day was pivotal in my recovery and I thank that judge for a dose of reality.
Today is his day to “Follow through” ..Thanks for support and prayers!