Tough Love, the Chemotherapy of Addiction
It may help parents that struggle with applying consequences to think of “TOUGH LOVE” as the chemotherapy of addiction.
Tough Love & Chemotherapy are not a pleasant experiences and often put the patient at “death’s door” before working. The side effects to both are daunting.
Tough Love is not pleasant “Medicine” to apply to our children. However Tough Love should be thought of as medicinal and applied as a protocol not a parental retribution! Far too many parents get into the “retribution” mode. Be very wary.
Tough Love, like Chemo, offers no guarentees and is merely a treatment option that each family must consider.
The choice is ours as parents. Here is why I believe in the Tough Love concept. I have spoken with hundreds of young addicts in long term recovery who have said:
“It is when my parents got tough and stopped enabling that I was forced to deal with my disease.” Out of the mouths of babes comes the most useful information/tool a parent can aquire.
I have a dear friend who often stated we must remove the “soft landings” in addiction. Be very cognizant that we can love our kids to death. Please think about applying the medicine. Apply the technique sooner than later and stop waiting for your time as that truly becomes the enabler’s loophole. Addiction loves the enablers loophole!
peace and strength